More than a century ago, on April 9th, 1888, Therese Martin entered  the Carmel of Lisieux where she was to die 9 years later in the odor  of sanctity. But we should make no mistake: St. Therese did not  become a Saint in 9 years. The young girl of 15 who crossed the  threshold of Carmel that day had already advanced quite far on the  "straight way that leads to Heaven". Her parents were her first  "Novice Masters" and their own holiness strongly influenced the  future Saint.

It is certainly worth noting that both Mr. and Mrs.  Martin are candidates for beatification. They have already passed the  first step towards canonization by being declared Venerable. Many of  the letters written by St. Therese's mother are still extant and,  besides giving us many details about the Martin family, they form  almost a treatise on Catholic education.   

Mrs. Martin understood very well that Catholic education means much  more than morning and evening prayer, attendance at Mass and sending  the children to a good Catholic school. After bestowing natural life,  parents must see to it that their children receive also supernatural  life through Baptism. And then, they have to foster the development  both of the body and of the soul.

Mrs. Martin, as a truly Catholic  mother, always gave priority to the soul. She considered her children  as a sacred trust received from God and never lost sight of this  important truth: a child is not a plaything.    If baptism removes original sin, it nevertheless leaves in the soul  the four wounds of malice, infirmity, ignorance and concupiscence.  Anyone who has been around little children knows that this is no mere  theory. Very soon little ones begin to manifest evil tendencies. 

Too  often, parents smile at these childish outbursts of anger, jealousy,  stubbornness, pride, etc... which they even consider "cute". No, a  child is NEVER CUTE when he is stubborn, proud, etc... Vices are like  weeds. If you uproot them as soon as they show up, you will pull the  whole thing out without difficulty.

But, do not weed your garden for  a few weeks... and you will see the result! If children are corrected  from their early childhood, the whole task of education will be much  easier. Mrs. Martin never showed any weakness. She never allowed  stubbornness or childish whims. Writing to her brother about Pauline  (the future Mother Agnes of Jesus), she could say: "I have never  spoiled her, and LITTLE THOUGH SHE WAS, I never let anything pass  unchecked. Without making a martyr of her, I nevertheless made her  obey." Children can easily be "fussy" at table. St. Therese's parents  never gave way on this point.

At table, children had to behave  themselves and no grumbles at dishes they did not like much were ever  tolerated. This may seem trivial matter, and how often parents take  the easy way out by just yielding to their children. No one will deny  that it is a trying task to train children to eat everything, but it  is of much greater importance than it may seem at first sight. In  fact, you do not only train your children's eating habits, you also  train their will, and they will need a strong will to remain Catholic  in our apostate world. In Lent, Mrs. Martin would subject the menu to  some restrictions and all the fasts of the Church were scrupulously  observed, which is an example all Catholic families should follow. It  proves to be a great means of promoting a true spirit of mortification  in the children.   

You may raise the objection: "What a dull life for children!" Oh, no!  The Martin family was happy and cheerful and the five girls were very  lively. Mrs. Martin had a real gift for stimulating the generosity of  her children. She always used supernatural motives to persuade them to  fulfill their duties: a sinner to convert, to console Our Lord, etc...  In a letter, she reports that her eldest daughter, Marie, valiantly  faced the dentist -- remember, they did not put your mouth to sleep  in those days! -- to obtain graces for her grandfather who had died  recently. Marie was only 9 years old then, and she even felt sorry  when the dentist did not pull out her tooth. "It is a pity", she  exclaimed, "Grandpa would have left Purgatory!"

Later on, when her  eldest daughters had reached their teens, Mrs. Martin knew how to let  them talk freely with her. She deemed it very important that her girls  could express their mind fully so that, with much tact and kindness,  she could rectify her daughters' judgment and teach them how to look  at everything from the standpoint of Faith. The best praise of her  "educational system" was given her by her own daughters at the  process of beatification of St. Therese: "We were not spoiled. Our  mother watched very carefully over her children's souls, and not the  smallest fault ever went unreproved. Her training was kind and  loving, but attentive and thorough."

 St. Therese of the Child Jesus is probably the only Saint about whose  childhood we have so many details. In the first four and a half years  of St. Therese's life, Mrs. Martin wrote over 120 letters, mainly to  her brother and to her daughter Pauline. These letters are an  invaluable source of information. They reveal to us the dawn of  sanctity in a soul as well as the important part played by the  parents in the formation of a Saint. In spite of all her good  qualities, St. Therese was not born a Saint. Like the rest of us, she  had been wounded by original sin and if her defects were small, they  were nevertheless real. there is, for instance, the delightful  incident of the two sugar rings, a treasure for a little girl.

St.  Therese, who had a heart of gold, resolved to give one of the rings  to her sister Celine. Alas, on the way home she lost one of the  precious rings. What was she to do? Should she give the only ring  left to Celine or keep it for herself? The shrewd little girl soon  found the solution to this dilemma and declared that, unfortunately,  it was Celine's ring that got lost! And the Saint comments: "See, how  from childhood we instinctively safeguard our own interests!" And who  will not see the "daughter of Eve" in the little Therese who thought  she would have looked much nicer with her arms bare when her mother  had her wear a pretty dress but with long sleeves?! St. Therese had  remarkable qualities too, especially her crystal-clear honesty. 

Mrs.  Martin could write, with some legitimate parental pride: "The little  one would not tell a lie for all the gold in the world." Little  Therese would always avow her baby faults to her parents without  seeking any excuse and would then ask for forgiveness and await her  punishment. There is something very charming in this innocent child  and it is best expressed in Mrs. Martin's own words, in a letter to  Pauline: "She (Therese) had broken a small vase, the size of my  thumb, which I had given to her that morning. As usual when she has  any accident, she came at once to show it to me. I showed some  displeasure. Her little heart swelled...A moment later, she ran to me  and said: 'Don't be sad, Mother, when I earn money, I promise you I  will buy you another.' As you see it will be a while before I get  it!"   

St. Therese was an oversensitive little girl. Her eyes would easily  fill with tears. One day Celine accused her of "bringing up her dolls  badly and letting them have their way." That was enough to make  Therese cry. Yet she did not have a weak character, on the contrary  she had a very strong will and could even be stubborn. Referring to  her two main "weaknesses", i.e. her oversensitiveness and her strong  will, St. Therese wrote: "With such dispositions, I feel sure that,  had I been brought up by careless parents, I would have become very  wicked, and would maybe even have lost my soul." Such a statement  should arouse in parents a salutary fear and make them realize their  responsibility. 

Try to imagine what St. Therese would have become if  she had spent most of her time sprawled on the carpet watching TV or  listening to rock music, if she had been free to indulge all her  whims...A good form of examination for parents would be the answer to  the following question: "Would St. Therese have become a Saint if she  had been brought up the way I bring my children up?" If the answer is  "no", then think of the account Mrs. Martin would have had to render  to God if, through a careless upbringing, she had deprived God and  the world of St. Therese... We are sure you will then lose no time in  reforming your method of education, for the greater good of your soul  and of your children's souls.   

Let us place ourselves at Mrs. Martin's school. The first thing to  bear in mind is that, by baptism, any child is God's child. Several  times a day, Mrs. Martin would put on her little girl's lips this  little prayer: "My God, I give You my heart; Take it, please, so that  no creature may possess it, but You alone, Jesus." St. Therese was  taught to do everything to please God, and for love of Jesus. One  day, Therese could not open the door of the room where Celine was  having her lessons. In her frustration, she lay down in front of the  door.

Her mother told her that she should not behave like this. But  the next day, when she found herself before the closed door, she lay  down on the floor again. Her sister Mary told her: "Little Therese,  you hurt the little Jesus very much when you do this." Therese looked  up at her sister. She had understood and she never did it again. Her  mother initiated her from a very early age in the art of making  sacrifices and when St. Therese wrote that since the age of three she  had never refused anything to the Good God, it was a tribute not only  to her personal holiness but also to Mrs. Martin's method of  education.   

There is no cry-room in France and St. Therese had to behave herself  in church. She loved to go to Mass and at two and a half she would  cry if she could not go not only to Mass but also to Vespers. Even  though she was very intelligent, she nevertheless surprised her  parents when she declared one day: "The sermon was better than usual,  but it was long all the same"!! Cry-rooms are not bad in themselves,  but alas, too often parents use them as nurseries. It is certainly  easier to let your little ones cry, play and eat in the cry-room than  to discipline them and teach them how to behave in the House of God. 

But how many children are drastically retarded in their spiritual  growth because up to the age of three, four, or five they have never  attended Mass outside of a cry-room, playing, eating, etc... Parents  must apply to themselves the words of St. Paul (I Cor. 3:9). They are  "God's helpers", and their children are "God's tillage, God's  building". God found in Mrs. Martin a faithful collaborator. To be  the mother of a Saint was her happiness on earth and it is her glory  in Heaven. This happiness and this glory are meant to be yours too,  if you cooperate with God in the work of the sanctification of your  children.

Source: Carmelites    

Holy Rosary Library



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