Last Questions From Joliet Tribunal

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Summary

Therese Z shares even more questions from an annulment questionnaire. Originally posted at Santifarnos blog.

The last questions from the Tribunal of the Diocese of Joliet

CONCERNING YOUR MARRIAGE

1. Prior to this marriage, were either you or your former spouse married? If so, give a brief description of the marriage and its breakdown.

2. Describe your dating history prior to dating your former spouse.

a. How frequently did you date?

b. Were any of these a serious relationship?

c. If there was an engagement, when did it began and end?

3. Describe the dating history of your former spouse prior to dating you.

a. Frequency

b. Serious relationship

c. Engagement

COURTSHIP

4. Describe the circumstances under which you met your former spouse.

a. How did your relationship develop?

b. How long and how often did you date.

c. How did you feel about each other?

d. How did you treat each other?

5. Were there any characteristics about your former spouse that struck you as unusual or troublesome?

6. Did either of you ever discontinue your relationship for awhile?

7. What did your parents and your former spouse’s parents think about your relationship? Friends?

ENGAGEMENT

8. When and where did you both decide to marry?

9. If premarital sex was part of your relationship, to what extent, if any, did it affect the decision to marry?

10. Did a pregnancy occur? Did it affect your decision to marry?

11. Reactions of parents and friends to decision to marry. Any objections?

12. Looking back now, how ready and mature were you for marriage? Spouse? Why?

13. How deep was your communication with each other? Serious discussions? Religion, finances and other mutual expectations? Outcome? Arguments?

14. What problems, if any, worsened during engagement?

15. Did either of you ever break the engagement? Reasons? How resolved?

16. Did either of you have any misgivings about entering into the marriage?

17. Did either of you intend to delay having children? If so, for how long.

18. Did either of you marry with any reservations about permanence, or with ideas of divorce?

19. At the time you married, did each of you intend faithfulness?

20. Was there infidelity during the courtship?

21. Were there any problems at the wedding/honeymoon?

22. When the first time problems arose in the marriage?

23. To what extent was communication honest? Describe any problems.

24. What were the major areas of disagreement between you? What did each of you do in these conflict situations?

25. Has either of you been verbally abusive or physically violent?

a. The type of abuse.

b. Was the abusive behavior evident before marriage?

c. How soon after the wedding did it occur? How frequently?

d. Hospitalization or medical treatment required?

26. To what extent were you and your former spouse able to express and receive affection?

27. Did either of you find responsibilities difficult to accept and fulfill?

28. Did you have children? How many? Ages and genders?.

29. Did either of you request a child?

30. How did each of you get along with friends and acquaintances?

31. Were there any separations prior to the final separation?

a. Date, reason, length of time.

b. Why reconciled.

32. Describe the circumstances leading to the final separation and divorce.

33. What has happened to each of since the divorce? Remarriage?

These are opening wedges for a lot of rueful "I don't know" answers. And a lot of tragedy.